I went to a bridal show last week and picked up this bit of information for brides who have a B or C list for invitations. Hopefully you can keep your invitation list to those closest to you and not need to have a 'B' or'C' list. But if you do have one, never mark the back of your RSVP's with the letters A, B, or C or the number 1, 2 or 3. Don't let anyone know you even have such a list, you can tell your fiance and your wedding coordinator but no one else. That includes your parents and your wedding party. The fewer people who know, the less likely someone will let this information out to one of your guests. Weddings are supposed to be times of joy and you don't want to inadvertantly hurt someone's feelings. If you must mark the back of the RSVP cards to indicate which list someone is on, use something that doesn't show which list the person is on, a small shape is always a good idea, or something else that is symbolic only to you. For instance if you are a bride with an A, B, and C list, code with a circle, a triangle and a square. If someone mentions they haven't gotten their invitations yet this is one of those times when a white lie is permissable. Blame it on a calligrapher who didn't finish on time or having to order more special stamps, anything but the truth, that they are on your 'C' list and you only just mailed it yesterday.
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